If you have your own lawyer, it's essential to consult with them about the specific details of your situation and your legal obligations.
Typically, if your husband's lawyer has requested a meeting with you before the divorce hearing, you are not obligated to meet with them. However, it may be in your best interest to consider attending the meeting if your lawyer advises you to do so or if you believe it could help facilitate communication or negotiation between the parties involved.
Before making any decisions, speak with your own lawyer to understand the reasons for the request and to discuss whether attending the meeting is in your best interests. They can provide guidance based on the specific laws and regulations of your jurisdiction and the details of your case. Remember that your lawyer is there to protect your rights and advocate for your best interests throughout the divorce process.