I can offer some general thoughts on how a person might feel and what they may desire in such a situation.
Discovering that your spouse has cheated can be an incredibly painful and challenging experience, and people's reactions can vary significantly. After finding out about infidelity, individuals may have a wide range of emotions, such as hurt, anger, betrayal, confusion, and sadness.
In such a situation, it is essential for both partners to communicate openly and honestly. If you are the one who has been cheated on, you might hope that your spouse will:
Be honest and take responsibility: Acknowledge the mistake, admit to the wrongdoing, and not make excuses or try to shift blame.
Show genuine remorse: Express true regret for the hurt caused and understand the emotional impact of their actions.
Be willing to listen and communicate: Allow you to express your feelings, concerns, and questions without defensiveness or anger.
Answer questions truthfully: Provide honest answers to any inquiries you may have regarding the affair.
Seek to understand and address the underlying issues: Work together to identify any underlying problems within the relationship and be willing to work on them to rebuild trust.
Respect your feelings and boundaries: Understand that healing takes time and give you the space you need to process your emotions.
It's important to note that every individual and situation is different. Some people may be open to working through the issue and rebuilding the relationship, while others may find it too difficult to move forward and may decide to end the marriage.
Ultimately, the path forward will depend on the couple's willingness to communicate, forgive, and rebuild trust. Seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor can be beneficial in navigating the complex emotions and decisions that arise after infidelity.