Dealing with older female managers (or any managers) who constantly ask for feedback requires a tactful and respectful approach. Here are some suggestions on how to handle this situation:
Be Constructive: When providing feedback, focus on being constructive and specific. Offer suggestions for improvement rather than simply pointing out flaws.
Be Honest but Diplomatic: Be honest with your feedback, but deliver it diplomatically. Frame your responses in a way that shows you are offering insights to help them grow as a manager.
Acknowledge Efforts: If the manager is seeking feedback as a sign of improvement, acknowledge their efforts and appreciate their willingness to receive input.
Set Boundaries: If you feel overwhelmed by the constant requests for feedback, politely express your appreciation for their interest in improvement but also set boundaries on the frequency of feedback sessions. Suggest periodic feedback meetings instead of on-the-spot inquiries.
Use "I" Statements: When providing feedback, use "I" statements to express your thoughts and feelings. For example, say, "I feel that it would be helpful if..." rather than sounding accusatory or judgmental.
Be Specific: If the manager's behavior is causing concerns, provide specific examples to support your feedback. This helps them understand your perspective better.
Offer Solutions: If you're providing feedback on an issue, consider offering potential solutions to the problem. It demonstrates your willingness to work collaboratively towards a resolution.
Recognize Their Experience: If appropriate, recognize their experience and expertise. Mention how their knowledge has been beneficial in certain situations.
Request Anonymous Feedback: If you are uncomfortable giving direct feedback, you can request an anonymous feedback system in the workplace to share concerns or suggestions.
Talk Privately: If the feedback is sensitive or might be better received in private, request a one-on-one meeting with the manager to discuss your thoughts.
Remember, feedback is a valuable tool for personal and professional growth. Older female managers seeking feedback might be doing so because they genuinely want to improve their skills. Embrace open communication and the opportunity to foster a positive and productive working relationship. Approach the situation with respect and empathy, and focus on constructive and solution-oriented feedback.