When someone asks if you have kids and then proceeds to make a negative comment about having children, it can be a delicate situation. Here are some appropriate responses, depending on the context and your feelings:
If you have kids and the comment is not offensive to you: "Yes, we have children, and while parenting has its challenges, it's also incredibly rewarding and fulfilling."
If you have kids, but the comment makes you uncomfortable: "We do have children, and while everyone's experiences are different, we find joy in our family life."
If you don't have kids and don't want to engage in a discussion about it: "We don't have children, and we're quite content with our current lifestyle."
If you don't have kids but feel comfortable addressing the negative comment: "I understand that parenting can be challenging, but it's a personal decision, and some people find it incredibly enriching."
If the negative comment is offensive or hurtful, and you want to set a boundary: "I prefer not to engage in negative discussions about parenting. Let's talk about something else."
Remember, it's entirely acceptable to set boundaries and protect your feelings in conversations. If you feel uncomfortable with a topic or a comment, it's okay to express your boundaries politely. Everyone's life choices are different, and respecting those differences is essential in maintaining healthy interactions.