Handling such a situation can be delicate to avoid making it awkward. Here are some tips to help you navigate this scenario smoothly:
Choose the right moment: Wait for a moment when you have some privacy with the woman you want to get to know better. This could be when you're both alone or in a small group where the other guy is not directly involved in the conversation.
Be direct but polite: Honesty is the best policy, but you don't have to be rude about it. You can say something like, "Hey, I was actually hoping to take a walk and chat one-on-one to get to know each other better. Can we catch up later, maybe?"
Acknowledge their interest: Show that you appreciate the other guy's willingness to join, but gently express your desire for some one-on-one time with the woman.
Confidence is key: Speak confidently and with a positive attitude. Avoid appearing hesitant or apologetic, as that might make the situation more awkward.
Redirect the conversation: After addressing the situation, smoothly change the topic to something everyone can talk about comfortably. This can help in easing any tension that might arise.
Choose an appropriate location: If possible, plan your walk in a way that makes it less likely for others to join spontaneously. Go to a secluded area or a quieter time when there are fewer chances of bumping into acquaintances.
Talk to the other guy privately (optional): If you have a good relationship with the guy who keeps inviting himself along, you can have a private conversation with him later. You can explain that you'd appreciate some one-on-one time with the woman to get to know her better, and you hope he understands.
Remember, there's always a chance that the other person may feel a bit awkward or disappointed, but it's essential to prioritize your feelings and intentions as well. Being respectful and clear about your boundaries will usually lead to a smoother outcome. Additionally, if the woman involved knows the other guy well, she might be able to help handle the situation gracefully by subtly redirecting him or suggesting some other time for the three of you to hang out together.