It's not uncommon for a narcissistic ex-partner to show up again after being exposed. There are several possible reasons for this behavior:
Hoovering: In the context of narcissistic relationships, "hoovering" refers to the attempts made by the narcissist to draw their former partner back into the relationship. They might come back to regain control and dominance over you, especially if they feel that their manipulation and tactics are still effective.
Narcissistic Supply: Narcissists crave attention, admiration, and validation from others, known as narcissistic supply. Even negative attention, such as being exposed, can be a source of supply for them. By reappearing in your life, they seek validation, reactions, or emotional responses from you.
Manipulation and Gaslighting: Narcissists are skilled manipulators, and their return could be an attempt to gaslight you into believing that the previous abusive behavior didn't happen or was not as bad as you thought. They might try to rewrite history or minimize their actions to maintain control over your emotions.
Ego and Pride: Some narcissists cannot handle the idea of being rejected or exposed. Their ego and pride can be wounded by the fact that you stood up to them or revealed their true nature. Returning to the relationship (or attempting to do so) might be an attempt to "prove" their superiority and maintain their self-image.
Need for Validation: Exposing a narcissist can be empowering for the victim and might damage the narcissist's image in the eyes of others. The narcissist might return to discredit your claims, portray you as the problem, or try to regain support from mutual acquaintances.
Opportunistic Behavior: Sometimes, a narcissistic ex might return if they see an opportunity to exploit you or your resources. They might come back with promises of change or reconciliation, but their intentions are often self-serving.
It's essential to be cautious if your ex-narcissist tries to re-enter your life. Remember that narcissists are unlikely to change, and engaging with them can lead to further manipulation, emotional harm, and cycles of abuse. It's crucial to prioritize your well-being and consider maintaining no contact or seeking support from a therapist or support group that specializes in narcissistic abuse recovery.