When a Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) or Otherwise Specified Dissociative Disorder (OSDD) system gets a partner, the experience of love can indeed differ from alter to alter. Each alter within the system is a distinct personality with its own thoughts, feelings, and emotions. As a result, the way each alter perceives and expresses love can vary.
It is possible for different alters within a system to have different types of romantic attraction or love for the partner. One alter might experience romantic love, while another may feel platonic love or even no romantic attraction at all. Some alters may have conflicting feelings about the partner, leading to complex dynamics within the system.
The experience of love within a DID/OSDD system can be intricate and multifaceted due to the coexistence of multiple identities with their own unique perspectives and emotions. Alters may have different preferences, interests, and relationship needs, which can influence how they interact with the partner and perceive their feelings.
It is important for the partner of someone with DID/OSDD to be understanding, patient, and open-minded. Building a healthy and supportive relationship with a person who has a dissociative identity disorder requires acknowledging and respecting the various alters' individuality and emotions. Effective communication and cooperation among the alters can help create a cohesive and loving partnership, despite the inherent complexities of living with DID/OSDD. Additionally, seeking guidance from mental health professionals experienced in treating dissociative disorders can be beneficial for both the person with DID/OSDD and their partner.