I can provide some general insights into how family members might react to disclosures of trauma, especially when another family member is responsible for the trauma.
Reactions to disclosures of trauma within families can vary widely based on individual personalities, family dynamics, cultural backgrounds, and the nature of the trauma itself. Here are some potential reactions:
Supportive and Empathetic: Some family members may respond with empathy, understanding, and a desire to offer emotional support. They may encourage open communication, validate the survivor's feelings, and express a willingness to help in any way they can.
Denial and Disbelief: Unfortunately, some family members may have difficulty accepting or believing the disclosure of trauma, especially if it involves someone else within the family. They may deny the reality of the trauma or question the survivor's credibility, which can be incredibly hurtful and invalidating.
Defensive and Protective: If the person responsible for the trauma is a family member, other family members may become defensive and protective of the accused individual. They might struggle to accept that someone they know and love could have caused harm, and they may rationalize or minimize the trauma to protect the family's image.
Blaming the Survivor: In some cases, family members may blame the survivor for the trauma or suggest that they provoked the situation. This response is harmful and can intensify the survivor's feelings of shame and guilt.
Guilt and Shame: Family members who were unaware of the trauma or unable to protect the survivor may feel guilty and ashamed for not preventing the harm.
Seeking Professional Help: Some families may recognize the severity of the situation and seek professional help, such as family therapy or individual counseling, to address the trauma and its impact on family members.
Avoidance and Silence: Traumatic disclosures can be overwhelming for some families, leading them to avoid the topic altogether or maintain silence about the trauma, which can hinder the healing process.
Mixed Reactions: It's possible for family members to have mixed reactions, with some being supportive while others respond negatively or ambiguously.
It's important to note that family reactions can change over time, especially as they gain more understanding of trauma and its effects. A supportive and safe environment is crucial for the survivor's healing process. Seeking professional guidance from therapists experienced in trauma and family dynamics can help families navigate the complexities of trauma disclosures and work towards healing and reconciliation when appropriate.