The relationship between an AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) sponsor or any addiction sponsor and their sponsee is intended to be one of support and guidance in overcoming addiction. While the sponsor's commitment to helping their sponsee is essential, it is not expected or appropriate for them to put their sponsee before their family in all circumstances.
It is crucial to maintain a balance between personal responsibilities, including family commitments, and the commitment to sponsoring someone in recovery. Sponsors are encouraged to set healthy boundaries to ensure they can provide effective support without neglecting their own well-being or the needs of their family.
Every sponsorship relationship is different, and how much time and support a sponsor provides can vary based on individual circumstances. Some sponsors may be available for frequent communication and assistance, while others may have more limited availability. What matters most is that the sponsor is honest about their limitations and communicates openly with their sponsee about the level of support they can offer.
Additionally, sponsors in AA and other 12-step programs often emphasize the importance of encouraging sponsees to build a strong support network, which includes attending meetings, connecting with other members, and engaging with the recovery community. This broader network of support helps ensure that the sponsee receives help even when their sponsor is unavailable.
Ultimately, the well-being of both the sponsor and the sponsee is essential, and a healthy sponsorship relationship should recognize and respect the boundaries necessary for everyone involved. If a sponsor finds that their commitment to sponsorship is significantly impacting their family life or overall well-being, they may need to reevaluate their involvement or seek additional support themselves.