I'm sorry to hear that you're facing challenges in your relationship while dealing with Complex PTSD. Coping with trauma and being in a relationship can be particularly challenging, especially when your partner doesn't seem interested in addressing their own emotional issues. Here are some suggestions to consider:
Communicate openly: It's essential to have open and honest communication with your partner. Express your feelings and concerns, including how their emotional detachment and indifference trigger your trauma responses. Try to find a time when both of you are calm and receptive to discussing your feelings.
Encourage empathy and understanding: Help your partner understand how C-PTSD affects you and why it's essential for you to focus on your recovery. Encourage them to be more empathetic and supportive, even if they don't fully understand what you're going through.
Set boundaries: Establish healthy boundaries to protect your own well-being. If your partner's emotional detachment is causing you significant distress, consider discussing these boundaries with them and the importance of emotional support in a relationship.
Suggest therapy: Suggest the idea of couples therapy or individual therapy for your partner. If they are resistant, it might be beneficial for you to continue with your own therapy to work on your trauma responses and coping strategies.
Take care of yourself: Ensure you're practicing self-care and engaging in activities that support your healing process. Caring for yourself will help you build resilience and cope better with relationship challenges.
Seek support from others: Reach out to friends, family, or support groups who can empathize with your experiences and provide additional emotional support.
Assess the relationship: Consider if the relationship is overall supportive and nurturing for you. Evaluate whether your partner's emotional detachment is a pattern that consistently causes harm to your well-being.
Consider professional advice: If the emotional distance in your relationship persists and becomes detrimental to your mental health, it may be worthwhile to consult a mental health professional for guidance.
Remember that a healthy relationship involves mutual support and understanding. However, it's also crucial to recognize that we can't change others; we can only influence their behavior to some extent. Focus on what you can control – your own healing journey and self-care – while encouraging your partner to seek help and be more supportive if they are open to it.