In Islam, respect and kindness towards parents are highly emphasized. The Quran, which is the central religious text of Islam, and the Hadith, the sayings and actions of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), contain several verses and teachings that highlight the importance of treating parents with love, care, and respect.
Command to be kind to parents: Islam instructs believers to be dutiful and respectful to their parents. In the Quran, Allah says, "And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], 'uff,' and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word." (Quran 17:23)
Reward for being good to parents: Treating parents kindly is considered a means of earning Allah's pleasure and forgiveness. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, "The pleasure of the Lord is in the pleasure of the parent, and the anger of the Lord is in the anger of the parent." (Al-Tirmidhi)
Patience with difficult parents: Islam encourages patience and forbearance, even in challenging situations with parents. The Quran advises, "But if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them but accompany them in [this] world with appropriate kindness and follow the way of those who turn back to Me [in repentance]. Then to Me will be your return, and I will inform you about what you used to do." (Quran 31:15)
However, it's essential to understand that Islam also places certain limits on obedience to parents. If parents command something that contradicts Islamic principles or involves harm or abuse, Muslims are not obligated to obey those commands. Islam places the worship and obedience of Allah above all else, even before one's parents.
If someone is facing abuse or mistreatment from their parents, Islam does not condone or support such behavior. Muslims are encouraged to seek help from knowledgeable religious scholars, counselors, or authorities who can provide appropriate guidance and support in such situations. Abusive behavior is not acceptable in any context, including within the family, and it is important to ensure the safety and well-being of all individuals involved.