Manipulating someone, even with good intentions like getting them help, is not a healthy or ethical approach. It's important to treat people with respect and honesty, especially when dealing with sensitive matters like mental health.
If you genuinely believe that your ex-partner needs help, there are better ways to encourage them to seek support:
Express your concerns: If you have a good rapport with your ex and believe they would be receptive, you can share your concerns about their well-being and gently suggest seeking professional help.
Encourage communication: Let your ex know that you are there to listen and support them if they want to talk about their feelings or struggles.
Provide information: Share resources and information about mental health support, therapy options, or support groups. Be neutral and avoid pushing specific solutions.
Offer assistance: If appropriate and agreed upon, you can help your ex-partner in finding a mental health professional or accompany them to a therapy session if they are comfortable with it.
Set boundaries: If the relationship with your ex is complicated or strained, set clear boundaries for your own well-being and encourage them to seek support from friends, family, or professionals.
Seek support for yourself: Dealing with someone who has borderline personality disorder or any mental health issue can be challenging. Ensure you have your own support system, friends, or counseling to cope with the situation.
Remember, you cannot force someone to seek help, and trying to manipulate them is not a respectful or ethical way to approach this matter. It's important to respect their autonomy and encourage them to make their own decisions about seeking support and treatment. If you genuinely believe they are a danger to themselves or others, you should involve appropriate professionals, such as mental health crisis teams or hotlines, to intervene responsibly.