It's important to remember that only a qualified mental health professional can provide an accurate diagnosis. If you are concerned about your mental health or the possibility of having Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), I strongly recommend seeking help from a mental health professional for a proper evaluation and diagnosis.
That said, here are some general signs that might indicate you don't have BPD:
Emotional stability: People without BPD typically have a relatively stable emotional state. While everyone experiences ups and downs in their emotions, individuals without BPD usually don't experience extreme mood swings or emotional turmoil on a frequent basis.
Stable relationships: Individuals without BPD tend to have relatively stable and consistent relationships with others. While conflicts and challenges are normal in relationships, those without BPD generally don't have a pattern of intense and unstable relationships.
Sense of self: People without BPD often have a relatively stable and consistent sense of self. They generally have a clear understanding of their identity, values, and beliefs.
Impulsivity: While everyone may experience impulsive behaviors from time to time, individuals without BPD typically don't engage in frequent and reckless impulsive actions.
Regarding your second question, pushing away people who don't fully accept you may not necessarily indicate BPD on its own. It's natural to want to surround yourself with people who understand and accept you. However, if this pattern of behavior significantly impacts your relationships and well-being, it might be helpful to explore these feelings with a mental health professional.
Keep in mind that BPD is a complex and multifaceted disorder, and diagnosis should be based on a thorough evaluation by a qualified mental health professional. Many other factors can contribute to relationship challenges or difficulties with self-acceptance, and a mental health professional can help you explore and understand these issues better.
If you or someone you know is struggling with mental health issues or relationship challenges, don't hesitate to seek support from a licensed mental health professional who can provide appropriate guidance, support, and treatment.