Yes, people with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) often experience what is commonly referred to as a "good" and "bad" side, but it's important to understand that this distinction is a symptom of the disorder rather than an accurate representation of their true self. The concept of a "good" and "bad" side is related to a defense mechanism called "splitting," which is characteristic of BPD.
Splitting is a cognitive distortion in which individuals with BPD tend to see themselves, others, and situations in extreme, polarized terms. They may idealize someone as all good, perfect, and angelic (the "good" side) or devalue them as all bad, evil, and awful (the "bad" side). This shifting perception can occur rapidly, leading to intense and unstable relationships.
The real person with BPD is neither the "good" side nor the "bad" side but rather a complex and multifaceted individual with a range of emotions, strengths, and vulnerabilities. It's crucial to understand that their struggles with splitting and intense emotions are symptoms of the disorder and not a reflection of their true character.
During moments of emotional stability and self-awareness, individuals with BPD may recognize the distortions caused by splitting and have a more balanced view of themselves and others. However, during times of stress, emotional turmoil, or interpersonal conflicts, the splitting defense mechanism may become more prominent, leading to the extreme perceptions.
Therapy, especially Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), can help individuals with BPD develop better emotional regulation skills and reduce the impact of splitting on their relationships. With appropriate treatment and support, they can work towards integrating the "good" and "bad" aspects of themselves and others, leading to a more coherent and realistic self-image and healthier interpersonal dynamics.