Yes, it can be considered emotionally abusive behavior. While it's important to understand that context and intent matter in any relationship, regularly making derogatory comments about someone's appearance, even if presented as a joke, can have a harmful impact on their self-esteem and mental well-being.
Emotional abuse is a form of control and manipulation that seeks to undermine a person's confidence, self-worth, and autonomy. Making hurtful comments about someone's body, even if done in a seemingly light-hearted manner, can still be emotionally damaging and is not acceptable in a healthy relationship.
If you are feeling hurt, uncomfortable, or upset by your boyfriend's comments, it's essential to communicate your feelings with him. Express how his remarks affect you and ask him to stop making such jokes. A supportive partner should respect your boundaries and strive to make you feel loved and valued. If he dismisses your feelings or continues with the hurtful behavior, it may be a sign of a deeper issue in the relationship, and seeking support from friends, family, or a therapist might be beneficial.