However, it's important to remember that my advice is not a substitute for professional help. If you're facing serious issues, I strongly encourage you to seek guidance from a mental health professional or counselor who can provide personalized support.
Dealing with a verbally abusive and potentially dangerous situation can be challenging. Here are some steps you can consider taking:
Prioritize your safety: If you feel physically threatened or unsafe, remove yourself from the situation immediately. Go to a safe place where you can call for help if needed.
Set boundaries: Communicate your boundaries to your boyfriend when he's sober. Make it clear that you won't tolerate verbal abuse or any form of violence. Let him know what behavior is unacceptable, and be prepared to enforce those boundaries.
Seek support: Talk to friends or family members you trust about what you're going through. Having a support network can be valuable during difficult times.
Encourage your boyfriend to seek help: If your boyfriend has a drinking problem, suggest that he seeks professional help or attends support groups such as Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). However, remember that you cannot force someone to change if they are not willing to seek help themselves.
Consider relationship counseling: If you both want to work on the relationship, couples counseling may be beneficial. A trained therapist can help facilitate communication and address underlying issues.
Personal therapy: Consider individual therapy for yourself to work on anger management and explore ways to cope with your emotions in healthier ways.
Safety plan: If your boyfriend's behavior continues to be abusive and you decide to leave the relationship, consider creating a safety plan with the help of a professional or a domestic violence hotline. This can involve preparing a safe place to go, gathering important documents, and having a support system in place.
Legal measures: If you're in a situation of domestic violence or abuse, you may want to explore legal measures such as obtaining a restraining order or seeking legal advice.
Remember, you don't have to face this situation alone. Reach out to friends, family, or professional organizations that can offer support and resources for dealing with abusive relationships.
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence or abuse, please contact a local helpline or domestic violence hotline for immediate help and support. Your safety is of utmost importance.