I'm sorry to hear that you're experiencing this in your relationship. Similar to the previous answer, it's important to note that I don't have specific knowledge of your situation or your boyfriend's perspective. However, there can be various reasons why your boyfriend might react this way when you cry:
Emotional discomfort: Some people feel uncomfortable dealing with their own emotions, as well as others' emotions, especially strong emotions like sadness or crying. Your boyfriend might not know how to handle or express his emotions appropriately, leading to avoidance or anger as a way to cope with the discomfort.
Fear of vulnerability: Witnessing someone else's tears can sometimes remind people of their vulnerabilities or emotional struggles, making them defensive or distant to avoid facing those feelings themselves.
Lack of emotional intelligence: Not everyone has developed strong emotional intelligence, which involves understanding and managing emotions in oneself and others. Your boyfriend may not know how to empathize or respond supportively when you cry.
Past experiences: Previous experiences, especially negative ones, can shape how people respond to certain emotions. If your boyfriend had negative experiences associated with crying in the past, he might be responding to you based on those past traumas.
Misunderstanding: Sometimes, people might misinterpret the reasons behind someone's tears. Your boyfriend might not understand the underlying cause of your sadness, leading to frustration or confusion.
Communication issues: Communication problems can lead to misunderstandings and emotional disconnect. If there are barriers to expressing emotions openly and honestly, it can result in unhelpful responses to each other's emotions.
Personal stress or issues: Your boyfriend's emotional reactions might not necessarily be about you; it could be related to his own stress, worries, or personal issues that are affecting his ability to respond empathetically.
It's crucial to have open and honest communication with your boyfriend about how his reactions make you feel. A healthy and supportive relationship involves being able to express emotions without fear of judgment or anger. If your boyfriend is willing to discuss the matter, it could be an opportunity for both of you to understand each other better and work on ways to improve emotional support within the relationship.
However, if your boyfriend's behavior continues to cause you distress and he is not receptive to communication or unwilling to change his reactions, it might be essential to evaluate whether the relationship is healthy for you in the long term. A healthy relationship should be built on mutual respect, understanding, and emotional support. If needed, consider seeking advice from a counselor or therapist to navigate these challenges and help you both grow in your emotional communication.