When interacting with someone suffering from depression or other forms of mental illness, including post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), it's crucial to be understanding, empathetic, and supportive. Certain statements can be harmful or dismissive, unintentionally making the person feel worse. Here are some things you should avoid saying:
"Just snap out of it" or "Get over it": This minimizes the severity of the illness and implies that the person can control their condition simply by willpower.
"You're just being lazy" or "You need to try harder": Mental illnesses are not a result of laziness or lack of effort. Such statements can increase feelings of guilt and shame.
"You don't look depressed/upset": Mental illness is not always visible on the outside, and someone may be struggling even if they appear fine.
"I know how you feel": Everyone's experience with mental illness is unique, and claiming to understand their exact feelings can come across as dismissive.
"Things could be worse": Minimizing their struggles by comparing them to others' hardships can invalidate their emotions and difficulties.
"You just need to think positively": While optimism can be helpful, it's not a cure for mental illness, and suggesting this oversimplifies the issue.
"It's all in your head": Mental illnesses are real medical conditions, and they need proper understanding and treatment, not trivialization.
"You should stop taking medication": Encouraging someone to discontinue their prescribed medication without professional advice can be dangerous.
"You're being dramatic" or "You're making this up": This dismisses the person's experience and may prevent them from seeking help.
"You're doing this for attention": Accusing someone of seeking attention through their struggles is hurtful and can discourage them from opening up.
"Just go out and have fun, and you'll feel better": While socializing and having fun can be beneficial, it may not address the root causes of their mental health issues.
"Why can't you just be normal?": Using the word "normal" in this context can stigmatize mental illness and make the person feel inadequate.
Instead of saying potentially harmful things, offer a listening ear, express your support and empathy, and encourage the person to seek professional help if they haven't already done so. Educate yourself about mental health issues to be better equipped to provide appropriate support. Remember, your understanding and compassionate attitude can make a significant difference in their journey to recovery.