Yes, it is generally considered rude and inappropriate to ask for recommendations or information about someone else's therapy from their therapist. There are several reasons for this:
Confidentiality: Therapy is a private and confidential space where individuals share personal and sensitive information. Therapists are bound by ethical guidelines and legal obligations to maintain the confidentiality of their clients. Asking for information about someone else's therapy breaches their right to privacy.
Trust and Boundaries: A therapeutic relationship is built on trust and a safe space for the client. When someone asks a therapist for information about another person's therapy, it can create mistrust and compromise the therapeutic boundaries. Clients need to feel confident that their personal information won't be shared without their consent.
Informed Consent: Before a therapist can share any information about a client, they usually need explicit and informed consent from the client. This applies to any kind of communication, including sharing information with friends, family, or colleagues.
Therapist's Ethical Obligations: Therapists have ethical responsibilities to prioritize their clients' well-being and interests. Sharing information about one client with another person could harm the client or interfere with their therapeutic progress.
Potential for Misunderstanding: Therapists might not have a complete understanding of the context or relationship dynamics between the person requesting information and the client. Sharing information without a full picture can lead to misunderstandings or misinterpretations.
If you are genuinely concerned about someone's well-being or behavior, it is better to express your concerns directly to the individual involved or encourage them to seek professional help if necessary. However, respecting their privacy and boundaries is crucial, and involving their therapist in any way without their consent should be avoided.