When a child is experiencing a panic attack, it's important to respond with understanding, patience, and support. Here are some things to avoid when helping a child during a panic attack:
Minimizing or dismissing their feelings: Avoid downplaying the child's panic or telling them to "just calm down." Panic attacks are distressing experiences, and the child needs validation and empathy for what they are going through.
Forcing them into crowded or overwhelming spaces: If possible, try to move the child to a quiet and safe environment. Avoid pressuring them to remain in a situation that may be triggering their panic attack.
Asking too many questions: While it's natural to want to understand what triggered the panic attack, bombarding the child with questions during the height of their panic can be overwhelming. Give them space and time to express themselves when they are ready.
Using a harsh or impatient tone: Stay calm and use a gentle tone of voice. Being understanding and patient can help the child feel more supported and less judged.
Telling them to "snap out of it" or "get over it": Panic attacks are not something a child can control voluntarily. Avoid implying that they can stop the panic attack by merely choosing to do so.
Overreacting or showing excessive worry: While it's essential to be concerned for the child's well-being, displaying excessive worry or panic yourself can escalate their anxiety. Stay composed and focused on providing support.
Raising your voice or becoming angry: Yelling or becoming angry can worsen the child's distress. Stay calm and understanding, even if the situation is challenging.
Using physical restraint: Avoid physically holding or restraining the child during a panic attack, as it can make them feel trapped and increase their anxiety.
Instead, consider the following supportive actions:
Remain calm and composed: Your demeanor can have a significant impact on the child's emotional state. Stay calm and provide a sense of stability.
Use a reassuring and comforting tone: Speak softly and reassuringly to help the child feel safe and supported.
Encourage slow breathing: Gently encourage the child to take slow, deep breaths. You can model deep breathing for them.
Allow them space: Give the child space if they prefer it, but let them know you are there if they need help.
Offer a calming activity: Depending on the child's preferences, offer a calming activity they enjoy, such as coloring, reading a book, or listening to calming music.
Avoid judgment: Do not judge the child for their panic attack or express frustration with them. Remember that panic attacks are not a choice, and the child is likely already feeling overwhelmed.
Seek professional help if needed: If the child experiences frequent or severe panic attacks, consider seeking help from a mental health professional experienced in working with children and anxiety disorders.
Remember, every child is unique, and what works for one may not work for another. Tailor your response to the individual needs and preferences of the child, and always prioritize their emotional well-being.