I can tell you that it is not uncommon for individuals in therapy to come to the realization that they may play a role in their own challenges or issues. This kind of insight is an essential part of the therapeutic process and can be a significant step toward personal growth and positive change.
Therapy often involves self-reflection, exploring past experiences, and understanding how one's thoughts, feelings, and behaviors contribute to their current difficulties. It can help individuals gain awareness of their patterns, biases, and ways of interacting with others. This newfound understanding can lead to the realization that they might contribute to their problems or conflicts in various ways.
Acknowledging one's own role in problematic situations doesn't necessarily mean they are "the problem" in an inherently negative or judgmental sense. Instead, it allows them to take responsibility for their actions and choices, empowering them to make positive changes and develop healthier coping strategies.
A core aspect of therapy is fostering self-awareness and self-compassion. Recognizing one's own part in challenging situations can lead to personal growth, improved relationships, and increased resilience.
If you're considering therapy or are currently in therapy, remember that the process can be transformative and beneficial, even though it might involve some challenging moments. Therapists are there to provide support, guidance, and a non-judgmental space for you to explore and understand yourself better.