The request for ongoing communication between a couple's therapist and a private individual therapist (individual therapy) might raise some concerns, and whether it is a legitimate request can depend on various factors. Here are some considerations:
Client Consent: Both you and your partner should provide explicit consent before your couple's therapist contacts your private therapist. Consent is essential when sharing sensitive information or engaging in any form of communication between therapists.
Purpose and Scope: The couple's therapist should clearly explain the purpose and scope of the communication with your individual therapist. Understanding why they want to communicate and what information they intend to share is crucial.
Boundaries: It's essential to establish clear boundaries regarding what information can be shared between the two therapists and how it will be used in the couple's therapy process. The goal should be to support the couple's therapy without compromising the confidentiality and safety of individual therapy.
Ethics and Professional Standards: Both the couple's therapist and the individual therapist must adhere to their respective professional codes of ethics and maintain confidentiality and privacy standards.
Trust and Comfort: As a client, you should feel comfortable with the idea of your couple's therapist communicating with your private therapist. If you have any reservations or concerns, it's essential to discuss them openly with both therapists.
Alternatives: If you are uncomfortable with the ongoing communication, consider discussing alternative approaches that can still support the couple's therapy process without direct communication between the two therapists.
Remember that each therapeutic situation is unique, and what may work for one couple may not work for another. If you have reservations about the request, it's essential to discuss your concerns openly with both therapists. They should be receptive to your feedback and work with you to find a solution that respects your boundaries and supports your therapeutic journey. If you feel uncomfortable with the situation and your concerns are not adequately addressed, you have the right to seek a second opinion or consider finding a different therapist who better aligns with your needs and preferences.