Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD) are both personality disorders that involve maladaptive patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving. Triangulation is a manipulative tactic used by some individuals with these disorders to create tension and competition among their romantic partners or "harem."
Here are some reasons why NPDs and ASPDs may engage in triangulation:
Seeking validation and control: Triangulation allows narcissists and individuals with ASPD to feel powerful and in control. By pitting partners against each other, they can manipulate their emotions and actions, which reinforces their sense of superiority and control over the situation.
Fueling their ego: Narcissists thrive on attention, admiration, and validation. Triangulation can create a situation where multiple partners vie for the narcissist's affection, thus providing an endless source of ego-stroking and narcissistic supply.
Fear of abandonment: People with NPD and ASPD often have deep-seated insecurities and fears of being abandoned. By creating jealousy and competition, they may believe it will prevent partners from leaving them.
Maintaining a sense of excitement: Triangulation can generate drama and excitement in their relationships. This heightened emotional state can be addicting for both the narcissist and their partners, making it difficult for the partners to disengage from the toxic dynamic.
Isolation and control: Triangulation can be a way for narcissists and individuals with ASPD to isolate their partners from external support systems. When partners are focused on competing for the narcissist's attention, they are less likely to seek validation or advice from others, keeping them emotionally dependent on the manipulator.
Playing mind games: Individuals with NPD and ASPD often have a knack for mind games and emotional manipulation. Triangulation is another tool they use to confuse, disorient, and emotionally destabilize their partners.
It's important to recognize that not all individuals with NPD or ASPD will engage in triangulation, and not everyone who engages in triangulation has these personality disorders. Triangulation is a harmful behavior that can be emotionally damaging to all parties involved.
If you find yourself in a situation involving triangulation or any other emotionally abusive behavior, it's crucial to seek support and help. Consider talking to a therapist or counselor who can provide guidance on navigating such relationships and help you prioritize your emotional well-being.