The instinctual variants in the Enneagram system play a significant role in shaping an individual's behavior and motivations. The primary instinctual variants are self-preservation (sp), social (sx), and sexual (also known as one-on-one or intimate) (so). These instinctual variants can manifest differently in each Enneagram type, leading to subtle yet significant variations in behavior. Here are some of the most easily spotted differences between the sx/sp and sp/sx instinctual variants:
Focus of attention:
- Sx/Sp (Sexual/Self-Preservation): People with this variant often have a strong focus on intimate, one-on-one relationships and connections. They may seek intense and passionate interactions with others while also being aware of their self-preservation needs.
- Sp/Sx (Self-Preservation/Sexual): Those with this variant primarily focus on self-preservation needs such as safety, health, and material well-being. However, they also have a secondary focus on forming intense, meaningful connections with others.
Approach to relationships:
- Sx/Sp: Individuals with this variant are typically more comfortable with intimacy and emotional intensity in their close relationships. They may value depth and authenticity in their connections and are willing to invest a lot of themselves into their partnerships.
- Sp/Sx: People with this variant may have a more reserved and cautious approach to forming relationships. While they still desire meaningful connections, they may be more concerned about their own well-being and safety, leading them to take more time in building trust.
Expression of instincts:
- Sx/Sp: This variant often displays a blending of the sx and sp instincts. They may be more attuned to both their intimate relationships and their physical and emotional needs for self-preservation.
- Sp/Sx: Similarly, this variant combines the sp and sx instincts, with individuals being more aware of both their self-preservation needs and their desire for meaningful connections.
Energy and intensity:
- Sx/Sp: These individuals often radiate an intense energy and passion, which can be attractive to others. They may be seen as highly emotional and deeply committed to their relationships.
- Sp/Sx: Individuals with this variant may appear more contained and grounded. They may not show their emotions as openly and might be perceived as more cautious or reserved.
Prioritization of needs:
- Sx/Sp: People with this variant may prioritize their intimate relationships over their self-preservation needs at times. They are willing to invest time and energy into their close connections.
- Sp/Sx: Those with this variant may tend to prioritize their self-preservation needs, ensuring they feel safe and secure before fully engaging in intimate relationships.
It's important to remember that these differences are generalizations and that each individual is unique. Moreover, an individual's Enneagram type and instincts interact to create a complex personality. Therefore, understanding instinctual variants is just one piece of the puzzle in comprehending someone's behavior and motivations within the Enneagram system.