Yes, narcissists can be attracted to each other, and there are several reasons why this dynamic may occur:
Shared Traits: Narcissists tend to exhibit similar personality traits, such as grandiosity, a need for admiration, and a sense of entitlement. When they encounter someone with these characteristics, they may feel an instant connection and understanding, as they share a common way of viewing the world and interacting with others.
Validation and Admiration: Narcissists crave validation and admiration from others. When two narcissists come together, they may provide each other with the admiration and attention they both desire. In the beginning, this can create an intense and exciting bond.
Mutual Self-Interest: Narcissists are primarily focused on their own needs and desires. When two narcissists are in a relationship, they may each be more interested in what they can gain from the other person rather than what they can give or contribute to the relationship.
Competition and Power Struggles: As both partners vie for attention and control, a relationship between two narcissists can become competitive and fraught with power struggles. Each may seek to assert their dominance and assert their superiority over the other.
Lack of Empathy: Narcissists generally have a limited capacity for empathy, so they may not be as attuned to each other's emotional needs and feelings. This lack of empathy can lead to difficulties in understanding and supporting each other emotionally.
While a relationship between two narcissists may start with an intense attraction, it often becomes tumultuous and unstable over time. The grandiosity, self-centeredness, and lack of genuine emotional connection can lead to frequent conflicts and a lack of emotional intimacy.
It's important to note that not all individuals with narcissistic traits will necessarily enter into relationships with other narcissists. Some may seek out more empathetic partners who can provide the emotional support and validation they crave. Additionally, not everyone who exhibits narcissistic behavior has Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), which is a more severe and pervasive condition.
In any relationship involving a narcissistic individual, understanding and addressing unhealthy patterns are crucial for personal growth and well-being. For those involved with narcissists, seeking support from therapists or counselors can be helpful in navigating the challenges of such relationships and setting healthy boundaries.