Deciding whether or not to discuss with your grandma about how her actions have affected you and contributed to your panic attacks is a complex and personal decision. It depends on several factors, such as your relationship with your grandma, her ability to understand and process the information, and your comfort level with having such a conversation.
Here are some things to consider when making this decision:
Understanding and empathy: Before having the conversation, try to put yourself in your grandma's shoes and consider her perspective. Understanding her intentions and limitations can help you approach the conversation with empathy.
Support system: Make sure you have a support system in place to help you cope with any potential emotional fallout from the conversation. This could include friends, family, or even a mental health professional who can provide guidance and support.
Communication style: Think about how you would like to approach the conversation. It's important to express your feelings and experiences without blaming or attacking her. Using "I" statements to describe your feelings can be helpful. For example, "I feel anxious when certain things happen" rather than "You cause my panic attacks."
Possible outcomes: Consider the potential outcomes of the conversation. It's possible that your grandma may be receptive and willing to make changes that could positively impact your well-being. On the other hand, she might have difficulty understanding or accepting your perspective.
Emotional readiness: Ensure that you are emotionally prepared for the conversation and any possible reactions from your grandma. Sometimes, people may react defensively or deny their actions unintentionally causing harm.
Alternative approaches: If you feel uncomfortable discussing your panic attacks directly with your grandma, consider seeking support from other family members or confiding in a mental health professional to explore coping strategies and ways to manage your panic attacks.
Ultimately, the decision to have this conversation is entirely up to you. If you decide to talk to your grandma, choose a calm and appropriate time to discuss your feelings and experiences with her. If you're unsure about how to proceed, seeking guidance from a mental health professional can be beneficial in helping you navigate this situation. They can provide personalized advice and support based on your specific circumstances.