Yes, narcissists often resist being told what to say or how to act. One of the hallmark traits of narcissism is a grandiose sense of self-importance and an excessive need for admiration and autonomy. They tend to believe they are unique, special, and entitled to special treatment, which can lead them to reject the idea of others having authority over them or telling them what to do.
Narcissists may react negatively when they perceive someone trying to control or exert authority over them. They prefer to be in control and may resist any attempts to limit their behavior or curb their actions. Some common responses from narcissists when faced with directives or restrictions include:
Defiance: Narcissists may outright defy orders or instructions, believing that they know what is best and should not be restricted by others' opinions or rules.
Deflection: They might deflect criticism or redirection by blaming others or projecting their flaws onto someone else.
Manipulation: Narcissists may try to manipulate the situation or the person giving instructions to avoid compliance. They may use charm or flattery to get their way.
Dismissal of Others' Opinions: They may dismiss or disregard the opinions and advice of others, considering them inferior to their own.
Reacting with Anger: Narcissists can become angry or defensive when they feel their independence or authority is being challenged.
It's important to note that not all assertiveness or resistance to being controlled equates to narcissism. Many people value their autonomy and may express similar sentiments to a lesser extent. However, in the context of narcissistic personality traits or Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), these behaviors are typically more pervasive, intense, and cause significant interpersonal difficulties.
Dealing with a narcissistic individual can be challenging, as they may have difficulty recognizing their own problematic behaviors and tend to lack empathy for others. Establishing boundaries and seeking support from qualified mental health professionals can be helpful in managing relationships with narcissistic individuals.