When a narcissist tells you hurtful and demeaning things at the end of a relationship, it can be considered a form of the final discard. The final discard is a phase in the narcissistic abuse cycle where the narcissist devalues and rejects their partner or victim in a particularly hurtful and definitive manner.
During the relationship, a narcissist may idealize their partner, putting them on a pedestal and making them feel valued and loved. However, as the relationship progresses or when the narcissist no longer sees any use for the person, they may devalue and discard them.
The final discard often involves the narcissist revealing their true feelings about the person, which may include statements like "I never loved you," "you were just an object to me," or other hurtful remarks. This can be incredibly painful for the victim, as they may have been emotionally invested in the relationship and believed the narcissist's previous displays of affection were genuine.
The purpose of the final discard for the narcissist can vary. It might be to exert power and control, inflict emotional pain, or to maintain their own sense of superiority and avoid any accountability for their actions.
It's important to recognize that narcissistic abuse is a harmful and manipulative behavior pattern. If you find yourself in a relationship with a narcissist or have experienced a painful final discard, it is essential to seek support from friends, family, or a mental health professional who can help you heal from the emotional trauma and build healthy boundaries in future relationships.