Yes, a narcissist can have a seemingly "good" relationship with their family, but it may not be a healthy or balanced one. Narcissists often have the ability to manipulate and charm others, especially those close to them, to maintain a facade of a positive relationship. They may use tactics such as love-bombing (excessive affection and attention), gaslighting (making others doubt their perceptions and reality), and triangulation (creating conflicts between family members) to maintain control and admiration.
However, behind this facade, the relationships with a narcissist can be deeply problematic. Narcissists tend to be self-centered, lack empathy, have difficulty recognizing others' feelings and needs, and often prioritize their own desires over the well-being of their family members. This can lead to emotional abuse, neglect, and exploitation of family members, causing emotional distress and damage to the individuals involved.
Over time, these relationships may become strained and dysfunctional, and family members might find themselves feeling trapped, manipulated, and emotionally drained by the narcissist's behavior. It's important for family members to set boundaries, seek support, and consider professional help (such as therapy) to navigate and cope with such challenging family dynamics.
It's also important to note that narcissism exists on a spectrum, and not all individuals with narcissistic traits or tendencies will exhibit extreme or abusive behaviors. Some people might have milder narcissistic traits and can still engage in healthier relationships with their families. Nonetheless, it's essential to be aware of the potential challenges and dynamics that can arise when dealing with someone who exhibits narcissistic behavior.