It's unfortunate to hear that you've encountered negativity in spaces that are meant to offer support and understanding for individuals with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). There could be several reasons for this:
Stigma and misunderstanding: BPD, like many mental health disorders, is often misunderstood and stigmatized. People might have incorrect assumptions about what BPD is and what it means for individuals who have it. They might mistakenly see individuals with BPD as manipulative or attention-seeking, rather than understanding the deep emotional pain and instability that are hallmarks of this disorder.
Personal experiences: Some people may have had challenging or negative experiences with someone who has BPD, and they might generalize these experiences to all individuals with the disorder. While this is not fair or accurate, it can contribute to a negative environment in these discussion spaces.
Lack of moderation: Online communities can sometimes be inadequately moderated. In an ideal scenario, moderators would ensure that discussions remain supportive and respectful, but sometimes harmful or negative comments may slip through.
Communication difficulties: Discussions about mental health can be complex and challenging, especially when they involve emotionally charged experiences or symptoms. Some people might struggle to express their thoughts and feelings in a compassionate and understanding way.
Remember, the views expressed in these spaces do not represent all perspectives on BPD. There are many people, including mental health professionals, who understand BPD and approach individuals with this disorder with the compassion, respect, and empathy they deserve. If you're struggling with the negativity in these spaces, you might consider seeking out other communities, perhaps those moderated by mental health professionals or experienced peers who ensure a more supportive environment.