While it is difficult to make sweeping generalizations about all narcissists, especially since individuals can vary greatly in their behavior, a narcissist may leave a supply alone if they can no longer control them or if the supply becomes less appealing to them. However, this decision largely depends on the specific dynamics of the relationship and the narcissist's personality traits.
Here are some scenarios that could lead a narcissist to leave a supply alone:
Loss of Control: Narcissists thrive on power and control over others. If they feel that they are losing their ability to manipulate and dominate their supply, they might choose to disengage from that person. This could happen if the supply becomes more assertive, sets firm boundaries, or refuses to comply with the narcissist's demands.
Finding a New Supply: Narcissists often seek out new sources of admiration, validation, and attention. If they find a more attractive or easily controlled supply, they may discard the previous one and move on to the new source of gratification.
Devaluation and Discard Cycle: Narcissists frequently engage in a cycle of idealization, devaluation, and discard with their supply. During the idealization phase, the supply is showered with love and attention. However, once the narcissist feels they have obtained what they wanted, they might devalue and criticize the supply, leading to the discard phase.
Loss of Interest: Narcissists can be fickle in their pursuits, and they might lose interest in a supply if they no longer find them captivating or exciting.
Emotional Exhaustion: Maintaining relationships with narcissists can be emotionally draining for their supply. If the supply becomes emotionally exhausted and withdraws from the narcissist, the narcissist might eventually give up on trying to keep them in the relationship.
It's important to note that some narcissists might continue to hoover (attempt to reestablish contact) with their previous supply, especially if they sense the supply is starting to move on or has something they want. This can create an on-again, off-again pattern in the relationship, where the narcissist intermittently attempts to regain control over the supply.
However, it is not guaranteed that a narcissist will leave a supply alone permanently. Some narcissists may be persistent in their pursuit of control and validation, and they might come back into the supply's life repeatedly, even after periods of absence.
If you find yourself in a relationship with a narcissist or suspect that someone in your life may be a narcissist, it's important to prioritize your well-being and consider seeking support from friends, family, or a mental health professional who can help you establish healthy boundaries and navigate the situation.