In general, individuals with narcissistic personality traits, including covert narcissists, may not be fully aware of their own narcissism or its impact on others. Narcissism exists on a spectrum, and people with narcissistic traits may not necessarily meet the full criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). However, those with covert narcissism tend to be more self-aware of their insecurities and vulnerabilities than overt or grandiose narcissists.
Covert narcissists typically exhibit a more introverted and vulnerable form of narcissism, which can make it harder for them to recognize their behavior as narcissistic. They may not display the grandiosity and arrogance associated with overt narcissists, making their self-assessment more challenging. Instead, they may internalize their feelings of superiority, entitlement, and grandiosity, projecting them subtly through passive-aggressive behavior, emotional manipulation, or playing the victim.
It's essential to note that some covert narcissists may have moments of self-awareness and recognize their negative behaviors. However, due to their underlying insecurities and defense mechanisms, they might be resistant to acknowledging their narcissistic tendencies fully. They may rationalize or justify their behavior, blame others, or avoid taking responsibility for their actions.
Therapy and self-reflection can help some covert narcissists become more aware of their patterns and work toward change. However, not all individuals with narcissistic traits seek help or recognize the need for self-improvement.
It is also worth mentioning that diagnosing someone as a covert narcissist or any other mental health condition should be left to qualified mental health professionals. Self-diagnosis or labeling others without appropriate expertise can be misleading and unhelpful. If you suspect that you or someone you know may have narcissistic traits or are struggling in their relationships, seeking guidance from a licensed mental health professional is recommended. They can provide a comprehensive assessment and offer appropriate support and treatment.