I can provide some general insights.
Individuals with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) may experience "splitting," which is a defense mechanism where they see things and people as all good or all bad, with little room for shades of gray or ambivalence. This can lead to rapid shifts in their perceptions of others, including friends and loved ones.
While researching about BPD itself is unlikely to cause someone to split on you, it is possible that discussing the topic or the information you shared inadvertently triggered certain emotions or thoughts in your friend. They might have felt misunderstood, judged, or even invalidated during the conversation, leading to a reaction or distancing.
It's essential to approach conversations about mental health conditions with sensitivity and empathy. People with BPD can be particularly sensitive to perceived criticism or rejection. If you suspect that your friend has reacted strongly to your discussion, it's essential to approach them with compassion and open communication.
Here are some suggestions for handling the situation:
Give them space: If your friend has distanced themselves, give them some time and space to process their emotions. Trying to force the issue or push for resolution immediately might not be helpful.
Reach out with empathy: When you feel the time is right, reach out to your friend with empathy and understanding. Express that you care about them and that you didn't mean to cause any harm.
Be willing to listen: Let your friend know that you are there to listen to their feelings and perspectives without judgment. Avoid being defensive, and validate their emotions.
Apologize if necessary: If you realize that something you said or did may have been hurtful, offer a sincere apology and acknowledge their feelings.
Educate yourself: Take this experience as an opportunity to learn more about BPD and how to support your friend better. Understanding their condition can help you communicate and relate to them more effectively.
Encourage professional help: If your friend is open to it, encourage them to seek professional support from a therapist or counselor who specializes in BPD.
Remember that each individual is unique, and their reactions can vary. If you find the situation challenging to navigate, consider seeking guidance from a mental health professional who can offer personalized advice based on the specific circumstances.