Yes, autistic people can have what is commonly referred to as a "special interest" or a "favorite person" in a way that shares similarities with how individuals with borderline personality disorder (BPD) experience a "favorite person" or "FP." However, it is essential to understand that these experiences are not the same, and the underlying reasons and dynamics can differ significantly.
For individuals with BPD, the concept of a "favorite person" refers to an intense and often unstable emotional attachment to a specific individual. This attachment can lead to idealization of the person when things are going well and intense devaluation when conflicts or perceived abandonment occur. The emotional intensity and the tendency to experience extreme shifts in perception of the person are characteristic of BPD.
On the other hand, in the context of autism, having a "special interest" or a "favorite person" often revolves around a passionate focus on a particular topic, hobby, or subject matter. Autistic individuals might show intense enthusiasm, knowledge, and dedication to this interest, spending a significant amount of time and energy learning and engaging with it. These special interests can be a source of joy and comfort for autistic individuals, and they often serve as a way to cope with sensory overload or social challenges.
While there are similarities in terms of intensity and focus on a specific person or topic, the underlying motivations and dynamics behind having a "favorite person" for someone with BPD versus having a "special interest" for an autistic individual are distinct. It's crucial to avoid conflating these experiences, as they arise from different neurological and psychological contexts.
If you are supporting someone with either BPD or autism, understanding these differences can help you provide appropriate support and empathy for their unique experiences.