It's important to understand that the emotions and motivations of individuals with narcissistic traits can be complex and varied. However, it's essential to recognize that narcissists primarily focus on their own needs and desires rather than genuinely caring for or respecting others in the same way non-narcissistic individuals do.
If you refuse to couple with a narcissist, refuse to move in together, and go no contact, they may experience a range of emotions and reactions, but it's unlikely to be genuine love or respect. Here are a few potential scenarios:
Narcissistic Injury: A narcissist's ego is incredibly fragile, and rejection or refusal to comply with their wishes can lead to a phenomenon known as a "narcissistic injury." In this case, they might feel wounded or insulted by your refusal, leading to anger, resentment, or even a desire for revenge.
Source of Supply Replacement: Narcissists constantly seek validation and admiration from others (known as "narcissistic supply"). If you were a significant source of supply, refusing to be with them could lead to them seeking a replacement elsewhere. While they may move on to a new person, it's crucial to recognize that this is not about genuine love but about fulfilling their emotional needs.
Power and Control: Narcissists often seek to maintain power and control over those around them. By going no contact and refusing to engage, you are taking away their ability to manipulate and control you, which could lead to frustration on their part.
Indifference: In some cases, a narcissist might feel indifferent towards you if they find a new, more enticing source of supply. They may not "hate" you per se, but rather, they are indifferent because their focus has shifted to someone else.
Ultimately, it's important to remember that the way a narcissist reacts to your refusal or no contact is not a reflection of your worth or value as a person. Narcissists have their internal emotional landscape, which is often driven by their disorder, and their actions are primarily about fulfilling their own needs and maintaining their self-image.
If you find yourself dealing with a narcissist or are recovering from a relationship with one, focusing on your well-being, establishing healthy boundaries, and seeking support from friends, family, or a therapist can be essential steps in healing and moving forward.