Hurting someone, even if they have hurt you, is not a constructive or healthy response.
Dealing with a covert narcissist or any difficult person can be challenging, but there are more constructive ways to handle the situation:
Set Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries to protect yourself from their manipulative behavior. Learn to say "no" when necessary and avoid being drawn into their games.
Seek Support: Reach out to friends, family, or a therapist who can provide emotional support and guidance in dealing with the situation.
Focus on Self-Care: Take care of your physical and emotional well-being. Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation.
Limit Contact: If possible, minimize contact with the covert narcissist to reduce their negative impact on your life.
Be Objective: Recognize their behavior for what it is, without internalizing their manipulative tactics or allowing them to define your self-worth.
Seek Professional Help: If the situation becomes overwhelming, consider seeking professional help, such as therapy or counseling, to better understand and cope with the dynamics involved.
Let Go of the Need for Revenge: Seeking revenge or trying to hurt someone will likely lead to more negativity and harm you in the process. Focus on healing and moving forward instead.
Remember, the best way to deal with a difficult person is to protect yourself, prioritize your well-being, and maintain your own personal growth and happiness. Responding to negativity with more negativity will not lead to a positive outcome and can perpetuate a harmful cycle.