When a narcissist feels rejected or abandoned, they might resort to tactics like going "missing in action" (MIA) as a way to manipulate and regain control over the situation. Here are some signs that a narcissist may be intentionally going MIA because they are angry at you for ending the relationship:
Sudden disappearance: The narcissist might abruptly cut off contact with you without any explanation or warning. They may go silent and avoid responding to calls, texts, or messages.
No closure or explanation: Instead of providing closure or addressing the breakup, the narcissist might leave you in the dark, intentionally avoiding any communication about the end of the relationship.
Ignoring attempts to reach out: If you try to contact the narcissist to discuss the breakup or seek closure, they may completely ignore your attempts to communicate.
Using MIA as a manipulation tactic: The narcissist may be using the silent treatment as a way to elicit a reaction from you. They want you to feel anxious, confused, and even guilty for ending the relationship.
Seeking attention or validation: By going MIA, the narcissist may be trying to make you worry about them, thus seeking attention and validation even after the breakup.
Testing your loyalty: The narcissist may be trying to test your loyalty and see if you'll chase after them or try to win them back, which feeds their need for validation and control.
Punishment and revenge: The narcissist may view your decision to end the relationship as a personal attack and may use MIA as a form of punishment or revenge against you.
Creating drama and chaos: Narcissists thrive on drama and chaos, and going MIA can create uncertainty and turmoil in your life, which may give them a sense of power and satisfaction.
Hoovering tactics: After some time of going MIA, the narcissist might reappear out of the blue, trying to draw you back into the relationship or engage in a cycle of intermittent reinforcement.
Using others to convey messages: Instead of contacting you directly, the narcissist might use mutual friends or acquaintances to convey messages or indirectly monitor your reactions.
It's essential to recognize these manipulative behaviors and protect your emotional well-being. Going MIA is not a healthy or respectful way to handle the end of a relationship. If you have already ended the relationship, it's best to focus on healing and moving forward rather than getting entangled in the narcissist's attempts to regain control or seek attention. Consider seeking support from friends, family, or a therapist who can help you navigate the emotional aftermath of the breakup.