In general, vulnerable/covert narcissists may handle relationship dynamics differently from overt narcissists, but they can still engage in harmful behaviors, including discarding their partners. It's important to remember that narcissism exists on a spectrum, and individuals with narcissistic traits may exhibit a variety of behaviors in their relationships.
Vulnerable/covert narcissists tend to present themselves differently from the more recognizable and overt grandiose narcissists. They may appear shy, introverted, or self-effacing, but beneath the surface, they still have a strong need for admiration, entitlement, and a lack of genuine empathy for others. They can be hypersensitive to perceived slights or criticism and have a fragile self-esteem.
While overt narcissists may be more likely to discard partners when they no longer serve their needs or when they find someone they believe can provide more admiration or benefits, covert narcissists may be less overt about their dissatisfaction and may struggle with feelings of abandonment. They may fear being alone and may find it difficult to initiate a breakup or leave a relationship, even if they are unhappy.
Instead of discarding their partners outright, covert narcissists may engage in other manipulative behaviors to maintain control and avoid feelings of abandonment. They may use guilt, passive-aggressive tactics, or emotional manipulation to keep their partner emotionally dependent on them.
It's important to recognize that narcissism is a complex and multifaceted personality trait, and people can display various behaviors based on their unique characteristics and the specific circumstances of their relationships. Whether someone is an overt or covert narcissist, being in a relationship with them can be challenging and emotionally harmful. If you suspect you are in a relationship with a narcissist or are experiencing emotional abuse, seeking support from a therapist or counselor can be beneficial in understanding the dynamics and finding ways to protect your well-being.