When two narcissists get into a relationship, it can be an intense and volatile dynamic. At first, it may seem like a perfect match because they both share a strong desire for admiration, attention, and validation. Initially, they might feel an intense attraction to each other, as they perceive each other as mirrors reflecting back their idealized self-images.
However, as the relationship progresses, conflicts are almost inevitable due to their inherent self-centeredness and lack of empathy for each other. Both partners will constantly seek validation and attention from each other, which can lead to power struggles, competition for attention, and a lack of genuine emotional connection.
In a narcissistic relationship, there tends to be a cycle of idealization, devaluation, and discard. At the beginning of the relationship, they may idolize each other and put on a facade to gain the other's admiration. But as time goes on and the infatuation wears off, they might start to notice each other's flaws and shortcomings. This can trigger a phase of devaluation, where they criticize, demean, or belittle each other to protect their own egos.
As neither partner is likely to take responsibility for their actions or show genuine remorse, conflicts can escalate rapidly, and the relationship may become emotionally toxic. It may be difficult for outsiders to understand the dynamics of the relationship, as both partners may present a united front to the outside world while hiding the underlying tensions and manipulations.
Ultimately, the relationship may end in a dramatic and explosive manner, with each partner blaming the other for the relationship's failure. Alternatively, the relationship may continue in a constant cycle of breakups and reconciliations, as each partner tries to regain control and dominance over the other.
Overall, a relationship between two narcissists is likely to be tumultuous, emotionally draining, and lacking in genuine intimacy and empathy. It can be extremely unhealthy for both individuals involved, and seeking professional help or support for personal growth and emotional healing may be necessary if either partner wants to break free from the toxic cycle.