In a relationship with a narcissist, the "final discard" refers to the point when the narcissist decides to end the relationship permanently and moves on without any intention of reconciliation. The final discard is often brutal and emotionally devastating for the victim (the person in the relationship with the narcissist). It marks the end of the cycle of idealization, devaluation, and discard that is typical in relationships with narcissists.
The final discard can happen for various reasons, and the presence of a new or old supplier (a new or previous source of narcissistic supply) can be one of the signs that the narcissist is gearing up for the final discard. Here are some factors that might contribute to the final discard:
Boredom or lack of novelty: Narcissists are drawn to new and exciting sources of supply. If they find someone new who they believe will provide them with more admiration and attention, they might discard their current partner without hesitation.
Need for validation and attention: Narcissists constantly crave validation and admiration. If they feel that their current partner is no longer providing them with the level of attention they desire, they might seek out a new supply who will fulfill their needs.
Devaluation phase: In the cycle of narcissistic abuse, after idealization comes the devaluation phase, where the narcissist starts to criticize, devalue, and emotionally abuse their partner. This can escalate until they discard the partner entirely.
Fear of abandonment: Oddly enough, narcissists often have a deep fear of abandonment. As a defense mechanism, they may choose to discard their partner before they can be abandoned themselves.
Power and control: The final discard can also be a way for the narcissist to exert power and control over their partner, leaving them feeling powerless and broken.
It's important to note that the final discard is not the end of the pain and trauma for the victim. Narcissists may continue to hoover (attempt to rekindle the relationship) or engage in other manipulative tactics to maintain control over their former partner.
If you are in a relationship with a narcissist or have experienced a final discard, it is crucial to prioritize your well-being and seek support from friends, family, or a mental health professional who can help you heal from the emotional wounds and move forward in a healthier direction.