A "side supply" refers to someone a narcissist keeps as a backup or additional source of attention and validation outside their primary relationship. There could be several reasons why a narcissist might not sleep with their side supply:
Maintaining Control: Narcissists often enjoy exerting control over others. By withholding physical intimacy, they can keep the side supply emotionally invested and dependent on the narcissist for validation.
Avoiding Commitment: Narcissists may fear commitment and emotional intimacy. Sleeping with a side supply could deepen the connection, potentially leading to more emotional involvement, which the narcissist may want to avoid.
Preserving the Primary Relationship: If the narcissist is in a committed relationship with a primary partner, sleeping with the side supply could jeopardize that relationship. The narcissist might prefer to keep the side supply as a backup while maintaining the façade of being loyal to their primary partner.
Maintaining Multiple Options: By not sleeping with the side supply, the narcissist can keep them on the hook while pursuing other potential sources of narcissistic supply. This allows the narcissist to have multiple options for attention and validation.
Fear of Exposure: If the side supply is aware that they are involved with a person who is already in a committed relationship, sleeping together could heighten the risk of exposure and potential consequences.
Manipulative Tactics: Withholding physical intimacy can be a manipulative tactic used by narcissists to keep the side supply eager to please them and continually seeking their approval.
It's important to understand that narcissists use people for their own needs and gratification, often disregarding the feelings and well-being of others. Engaging with a narcissist, whether as the primary partner or a side supply, can be emotionally damaging and unhealthy. If you find yourself in such a situation, it's crucial to prioritize your well-being and consider seeking support from friends, family, or a mental health professional.