It is generally true that narcissists, especially those with the more severe and classic form of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), rarely admit or recognize their own narcissism. This is because the traits of narcissism include a lack of self-awareness, an inflated sense of self-importance, and an inability to empathize with others, making it challenging for them to see their own faults or acknowledge their behavior as problematic.
However, it's important to note that narcissism exists on a spectrum, and not all individuals with narcissistic traits or tendencies will fit the classic NPD diagnosis. Some people may exhibit narcissistic behaviors but possess enough self-awareness to recognize certain traits in themselves. In these cases, they might admit to having narcissistic tendencies or even use terms like "covert narcissist" to describe their behavior.
A "covert narcissist" refers to an individual who exhibits narcissistic traits but in a more subtle and less overt manner compared to those with classic NPD. They may still have an exaggerated sense of entitlement, a need for admiration, and a lack of empathy, but they might be better at hiding these traits or presenting themselves as victims or altruistic individuals.
It's important to approach such situations with caution and seek professional guidance. Even if your adult son admits to having narcissistic traits, it doesn't necessarily mean he will be open to change or seeking help. Narcissistic traits can be deeply ingrained, and a comprehensive and committed therapeutic process would be necessary for any significant shifts in behavior and attitudes.
If you are concerned about your son's well-being or the impact of his behavior on your relationship, consider encouraging him to seek professional counseling or therapy. A mental health professional with experience in dealing with personality disorders can provide a more accurate assessment and offer guidance on how to address and cope with the situation effectively.