Yes, it is common for narcissists to act as if nothing happened after they have been rude or hurtful to someone. This behavior is often referred to as "hoovering" or "love-bombing." Hoovering is a tactic used by narcissists to draw their victims back into their manipulative cycle after a period of devaluation or mistreatment.
When a narcissist realizes that their actions or behavior have pushed their victim away or caused emotional distance, they may attempt to "sweep things under the rug" and act as if the hurtful incident never occurred. They may try to be overly charming, apologetic, or show affection to regain the victim's trust and attachment.
This cycle of idealization, devaluation, and hoovering can be emotionally confusing and draining for the victim. The narcissist's ability to switch between being rude and loving can create a sense of instability in the victim's emotions and perception of the relationship.
It is essential to recognize these patterns and be cautious about getting pulled back into a toxic relationship with a narcissistic individual. Seeking support from friends, family, or a professional counselor can help victims navigate the complexities of dealing with a narcissistic partner and promote healing and empowerment.