Yes, narcissists often label their ex-partners as "crazy" or use similar derogatory terms to describe them. This behavior is part of a manipulation tactic known as gaslighting. Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which the narcissist seeks to make the victim doubt their perception, memory, or sanity. By labeling their ex-partner as "crazy," the narcissist tries to discredit their feelings, emotions, and experiences, thus invalidating any concerns or criticisms the ex-partner may have had about the relationship or the narcissist's behavior.
There are several reasons why narcissists may engage in this behavior:
Self-preservation: By discrediting their ex-partner as "crazy," the narcissist can deflect attention away from their own problematic behavior and portray themselves as the victim in the relationship.
Control: Labeling the ex-partner as "crazy" is a way for the narcissist to maintain control and power over the narrative of the relationship. It allows them to dismiss any valid concerns or issues raised by their ex-partner and avoid taking responsibility for their actions.
Ego protection: Narcissists have a fragile sense of self-esteem, and admitting any fault or acknowledging the ex-partner's valid concerns might be damaging to their self-image. By calling the ex-partner "crazy," they protect their ego and maintain their self-perception as faultless and superior.
Emotional manipulation: By convincing the ex-partner that they are "crazy," the narcissist may try to make the ex-partner doubt their own perceptions and memories. This can lead the ex-partner to question their judgment and become more dependent on the narcissist for validation and reality-checking.
Smear campaign: In some cases, when a narcissist feels threatened by the ex-partner, they may engage in a smear campaign to tarnish the ex-partner's reputation and credibility, making it harder for others to believe or support the ex-partner's side of the story.
It's important to remember that labeling an ex-partner as "crazy" is emotionally abusive and harmful. If you or someone you know is experiencing this kind of manipulation in a relationship, seeking support from friends, family, or a mental health professional can be helpful in understanding and navigating the situation.