While it is possible for people to change and grow over time, significant personality changes, especially in individuals with narcissistic personality traits or narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), are generally rare and difficult to achieve. Personality disorders, including NPD, are deeply ingrained patterns of behavior and thought, and they tend to be stable over time.
When a narcissistic individual enters a new relationship, they may appear to be different or even more considerate during the early stages, as they are in the idealization phase of the new relationship. This phase is when they are trying to win over their new partner and present themselves in the best possible light. However, as the relationship progresses, the old patterns and behaviors may resurface.
It's essential to be cautious when dealing with someone who has previously exhibited narcissistic traits or abusive behavior. Entering a new relationship doesn't necessarily mean they have fundamentally changed their personality. They may simply be repeating the same cycle with a new partner, known as the "narcissistic cycle of abuse."
If you are considering reconnecting with your narcissistic ex or have concerns about their potential change, it is crucial to prioritize your well-being and set clear boundaries. It might be beneficial to seek support from a therapist or counselor who can help you navigate your feelings and make informed decisions about your relationships.
Remember that it is not your responsibility to fix or change someone with a personality disorder. Focus on your own growth and healing, and surround yourself with supportive and healthy relationships.