It's not uncommon for narcissists to exhibit obsessive behavior even if they claim to dislike or hate someone. There are several reasons why a narcissist may continue to try to contact you and inquire about you, despite the breakup and being blocked:
Narcissistic Supply: Narcissists crave attention, admiration, and validation from others. Even negative attention can be a source of narcissistic supply. By trying to contact you or inquire about you, the narcissist may be seeking a reaction or response from you, which would give them a sense of power and control over your emotions.
Ego and Rejection: Narcissists have fragile egos and fear rejection. The fact that you blocked them and ended the relationship might have wounded their ego. They might be trying to reestablish contact to prove to themselves that they still have some level of control and influence over you.
Hoovering: "Hoovering" is a term used to describe a tactic narcissists use to suck their former partners back into the relationship. It involves attempts to rekindle the connection, often after a breakup. By adding you on an old social media account, the narcissist might be trying to draw you back in or rekindle the relationship.
Manipulation and Guilt: Narcissists are skilled manipulators. They may use various tactics, including guilt-tripping, to make you feel bad for blocking them or not responding to their attempts at contact. By playing on your emotions, they hope to break down your boundaries and regain access to you.
Sense of Ownership: Narcissists often see their partners as extensions of themselves rather than individuals with their own autonomy. The breakup might have challenged their sense of ownership and control over you, leading them to continue trying to connect with you as a way to reestablish that control.
Curiosity: Narcissists may also be genuinely curious about your life post-breakup. They might want to know if you are still affected by the breakup or if you have moved on without them, which can provide them with a sense of satisfaction or even jealousy.
Regardless of the reasons behind the narcissist's behavior, it's essential to maintain strong boundaries and continue to enforce the no-contact rule. Blocking them on all communication channels and avoiding any response to their attempts to contact you is crucial for your emotional well-being and to avoid being drawn back into a potentially toxic relationship.
If the behavior persists or escalates and starts to affect your life significantly, consider seeking support from a mental health professional who can provide guidance and help you navigate the situation effectively.