When an empath goes incognito on a narcissist and their flying monkey, it means that the empath starts concealing their emotions, thoughts, and intentions from these individuals. This decision is usually taken to protect themselves from the manipulative tactics of the narcissist and the enablers (flying monkeys) who support the narcissist's behavior.
Here's what might happen when an empath goes incognito:
Reduced Narcissistic Supply: Empaths are often a valuable source of emotional validation and attention for narcissists. By going incognito, the empath withdraws this supply, making it more challenging for the narcissist to maintain control over them.
Confusion and Frustration: Narcissists thrive on the emotional reactions of their victims. When the empath stops reacting as expected, the narcissist may become confused, frustrated, or agitated. They might try various tactics to regain control, such as love-bombing (intense affection and attention) or hoovering (attempts to reel the empath back into the relationship).
Escaping Manipulation: Going incognito can help the empath break free from the manipulative cycle. It allows the empath to regain a sense of self and distance themselves from the narcissist's emotional games and gaslighting attempts.
Flying Monkey Backlash: Flying monkeys are individuals who enable the narcissist's behavior and may act as their messengers or allies. When the empath goes incognito, the flying monkeys might become more persistent in their efforts to pull the empath back into the narcissist's orbit. They may try to guilt-trip or shame the empath to maintain the status quo.
Strengthening Boundaries: Going incognito can empower the empath to set and maintain healthier boundaries with the narcissist and their enablers. This newfound assertiveness can protect the empath from further emotional harm.
Potential Retaliation: In some cases, when the narcissist feels their control slipping away, they may react with anger or vindictive behavior. They might spread rumors, engage in character assassination, or attempt to tarnish the empath's reputation.
Emotional Healing: Going incognito can be a step towards emotional healing for the empath. It provides an opportunity to disengage from the toxic relationship dynamics and focus on self-care and personal growth.
It's important to remember that dealing with a narcissist and their flying monkeys can be emotionally challenging and even dangerous in some cases. It is advisable for the empath to seek support from a therapist, counselor, or support group experienced in dealing with narcissistic abuse. They can provide guidance, validation, and strategies for protecting oneself and recovering from the emotional impact of the relationship.