If you have made a covert narcissist angry and they are now consistently reading your messages (showing them as "seen") but not responding, it could be a manipulative tactic known as "silent treatment." The silent treatment is a form of emotional abuse used by some narcissists as a means of control and punishment. Here are some possible reasons why a covert narcissist might employ this behavior:
Power and Control: By not responding to your messages, the narcissist is asserting power and control over the communication. They want you to feel anxious, ignored, and dependent on their attention.
Punishment and Manipulation: The silent treatment is a way for the narcissist to punish you for perceived slights or to manipulate you into seeking their approval or validation.
Avoiding Responsibility: If the confrontation or argument was about something they did wrong, the narcissist might be avoiding taking responsibility for their actions by ignoring your messages.
Creating Drama: Narcissists thrive on drama and attention. Ignoring your messages can create tension and draw you back into their orbit, where they can then assert control.
Maintaining Superiority: Ignoring your messages can be a way for the narcissist to feel superior, as if they have the power to dismiss and overlook your attempts to communicate.
Emotional Manipulation: The silent treatment can trigger feelings of guilt, self-doubt, and anxiety in the target, making them more compliant and vulnerable to the narcissist's demands.
It's important to understand that the silent treatment is an emotionally abusive tactic, and no one deserves to be treated in this way. If you believe that you made a mistake or caused offense, a healthy and mature response from someone should involve open communication and discussion to resolve the issue, not the silent treatment.
In dealing with a covert narcissist, it's essential to prioritize your own well-being and emotional health. If the relationship is consistently causing you distress, it might be necessary to reassess whether it is a healthy and positive dynamic for you. Consider seeking support from friends, family, or a mental health professional who can help you navigate the situation and develop coping strategies. Remember that you deserve to be treated with respect and kindness in all your relationships.