When a narcissistic individual loses a source of supply, such as a friend who used to provide attention, admiration, or emotional support, they can react in various ways. One common reaction is feeling annoyed or angry, even if they have seemingly found other sources of supply. There are several reasons why this might happen:
Ego and Control: Narcissists have fragile egos and a strong need for control. When someone they consider a part of their "fan club" or a source of validation cuts them off, it can be a blow to their ego. They may have a hard time accepting that someone they deemed important has moved on without their permission or approval.
Narcissistic Injury: The act of being discarded or rejected can cause what is known as a narcissistic injury. This occurs when the narcissist's sense of superiority is challenged or undermined. They might feel hurt, humiliated, or even betrayed by the friend's decision to move on.
Loss of Power and Influence: Narcissists often view their relationships as a means of gaining power, control, and influence over others. When someone breaks away from their control, it threatens their sense of power and superiority.
Fear of Exposure: Losing a friend who knows them well might evoke fears of exposure or having their true self revealed. Narcissists often carefully construct a facade to maintain their false image, and someone who was once close may have seen through that facade, which can be unsettling for them.
Envy and Jealousy: Narcissists can feel envious and jealous when they see others thriving or moving on without them. They may not genuinely care for the person they lost as a supply, but they still don't want to see that person being happy without them.
Hoovering Attempt: In some cases, when a narcissist realizes they have lost a source of supply, they might try to "hoover" or lure the person back into the relationship. They may use various manipulative tactics to regain control and attention.
It's essential to remember that narcissists' reactions are not based on genuine emotional connections or concern for the well-being of others. Instead, their responses are driven by their own insecurities, need for validation, and desire to maintain control over those around them.
If you have moved on and are happy with your decision to cut off the narcissistic friend, it's crucial to continue prioritizing your well-being and maintaining healthy boundaries. It may be best to avoid further engagement with the narcissist to protect yourself from potential manipulation and emotional harm.