It's important to note that generalizations about individuals can be challenging, and not all narcissists behave in the same way. However, there are some potential reasons why a narcissist might keep toxic friends while using and discarding a victim who has mature and non-toxic friends:
Manipulation and Control: Narcissists are skilled manipulators who seek to control others for their benefit. Toxic friends might be easier to manipulate and maintain control over because they may be more vulnerable or dependent on the narcissist. In contrast, a victim with mature and non-toxic friends might have a stronger support network and be less susceptible to the narcissist's manipulations.
Narcissistic Supply: Narcissists require constant validation and admiration, known as narcissistic supply, to bolster their fragile self-esteem. Toxic friends might provide the constant praise and adulation the narcissist craves, whereas a victim with healthier friends might not constantly feed the narcissist's ego.
Empowerment and Threat: The victim with mature and non-toxic friends may become more empowered and self-confident over time due to the positive influences around them. This could pose a threat to the narcissist's ability to control and dominate the victim, making the victim less useful to the narcissist's agenda.
Fear of Exposure: Mature and non-toxic friends may be more likely to recognize the narcissist's manipulative behaviors and call them out on their actions. This fear of exposure could lead the narcissist to avoid associations with such friends in favor of those who are less likely to see through their facade.
Competitive Nature: Narcissists often have a strong need to be superior and the center of attention. If a victim has successful, mature, and non-toxic friends, the narcissist may feel overshadowed or insecure in comparison, leading them to discard the victim and seek out others who don't pose a threat to their self-perceived superiority.
Lack of Empathy: Narcissists have difficulty empathizing with others and tend to exploit them for their own needs. They may not value the connection with mature and non-toxic friends as much as they value the control and adoration they can get from toxic friendships.
It's crucial to recognize that a narcissist's behavior is driven by their personality disorder and not the fault of the victims or their friends. Dealing with a narcissist can be challenging, and seeking support from qualified mental health professionals or support groups can be helpful for victims trying to navigate such relationships.